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Dating After a Long-Term Relationship: 2 Questions to Ask Yourself After a First Date
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Dating After a Long-Term Relationship: 2 Questions to Ask Yourself After a First Date

Dating after a long-term relationship can bring up more than excitement—it can bring self-doubt. After a first date, instead of focusing only on whether they liked you, consider two questions: Does this person feel like a teammate? And what version of myself comes out when I’m around them? These questions can help you reconnect with your needs, notice what your body is telling you, and begin trusting your judgment again.

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Dating Again This Spring? 4 Steps to Overcome Self-Sabotage Anxiety (Chicago, IL)

Dating Again This Spring? 4 Steps to Overcome Self-Sabotage Anxiety (Chicago, IL)

Dating again this spring? If you’re experiencing dating anxiety or self-sabotage anxiety, this blog walks you through 4 practical steps to help you navigate early dating experiences with more confidence, curiosity, and self-trust. Written by an anxiety therapist in Chicago, IL.

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Don’t Lose Yourself in Parenthood: An Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL on People Pleasing and Relationships

Don’t Lose Yourself in Parenthood: An Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL on People Pleasing and Relationships

As an anxiety therapist in Chicago, IL who also works with couples, I was inspired to write this blog post after sitting with many first-time parents who came in wanting to improve their “communication skills.” Over the years, I’ve witnessed how the transition into parenthood doesn’t create new relationship problems — it magnifies the patterns that were already there.

If you’ve always been the responsible one, the peacekeeper, the one who keeps things running smoothly, becoming a parent can intensify that role. And somewhere between feedings, diaper changes, and managing schedules, you may start to feel like you’re disappearing.

If that sounds familiar, this blog is for you.

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“What If You Don’t Want the Life You’re Supposed to Want?” Guidance from an Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL

“What If You Don’t Want the Life You’re Supposed to Want?” Guidance from an Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL

Have you ever wondered if the life you’re “supposed” to want really fits you? As an anxiety therapist in Chicago, IL, I often work with clients struggling with societal expectations, guilt, and the quiet fear of standing out. This blog explores how to honor your own values, question the conventional playbook, and create a life that truly feels meaningful.

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Reflections from an Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL on Finding Calm in Restless Moments
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Reflections from an Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL on Finding Calm in Restless Moments

As an anxiety therapist in Chicago, IL, I often help clients navigate moments of restlessness and overwhelm. In this post, I share reflections and practical strategies for finding calm amidst life’s chaos, offering insights to help you breathe, pause, and reset—even in the busiest of days.

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