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Dating After a Breakup: Why No Algorithm Can Tell You Who to Love | Anxiety Therapist Chicago, IL 
Healing After Heartbreak, Dating, Self-trust Shirley Khong Healing After Heartbreak, Dating, Self-trust Shirley Khong

Dating After a Breakup: Why No Algorithm Can Tell You Who to Love | Anxiety Therapist Chicago, IL 

Starting to date after a breakup often brings one question to the surface: Can I trust myself again? Inspired by Black Mirror's "Hang the DJ" and featuring insights from psychologist Dr. Dan LaLuna, this blog explores dating anxiety, relationship patterns, psychological diagnoses, and why no algorithm can tell you who to love.

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How to Stop Repeating Relationship Patterns After a Breakup
Healing After Heartbreak, Patterns, Awareness Shirley Khong Healing After Heartbreak, Patterns, Awareness Shirley Khong

How to Stop Repeating Relationship Patterns After a Breakup

After a breakup or divorce, it's easy to assume a new relationship will feel different. But if you're noticing the same fights, the same shutdown, the same wall of resentment building up, your past may be more present than you think. In this blog, an anxiety therapist in Chicago breaks down why we bring old patterns into new relationships, how to recognize your triggers in conflict, and what it actually takes to build something different this time.

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Don’t Lose Yourself in Parenthood: An Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL on People Pleasing and Relationships

Don’t Lose Yourself in Parenthood: An Anxiety Therapist in Chicago, IL on People Pleasing and Relationships

As an anxiety therapist in Chicago, IL who also works with couples, I was inspired to write this blog post after sitting with many first-time parents who came in wanting to improve their “communication skills.” Over the years, I’ve witnessed how the transition into parenthood doesn’t create new relationship problems — it magnifies the patterns that were already there.

If you’ve always been the responsible one, the peacekeeper, the one who keeps things running smoothly, becoming a parent can intensify that role. And somewhere between feedings, diaper changes, and managing schedules, you may start to feel like you’re disappearing.

If that sounds familiar, this blog is for you.

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